I have a best friend that I love very much. She is also the Godmother to my kids. A few years ago she had experience personal tragedies in her life & I spend a year & a half trying to help her–all along neglecting my life and family. She has become selfish and wasteful with finances. She came into a lot of money and now she acts like Donald Trump’s first wife. This contradicts her lifestyle before. She and I are very different people, but I care for her & her family. Money does change people for the worse. She got a new best friend because I could no longer neglect my life and cater to her. I don’t drink and because of these tragedies, she wanted me to drink with her. Not my style. So she got a new BFF to drink with 3 times a week. This new BFF is also helping her spend all her money. And now my friend is running out of money and the new BFF is no where to be found. My friend was upset and so she told me that she is going to get rid of people who don’t give her attention. I asked if I was included and she paused and did not say a word. I have to explain that I have a conscience and I feel that my friend should not have wasted her money on frivolous things. This is why I can no longer be around her. She does not take my advice on her finances. And she says mean things as if she is entitled to hurt people’s feelings and I don’t say anything back because I don’t want to hurt her feelings because of what she has been through. How do I end the relationship without hurting her and I don’t want to feel bad about doing it?
How Do I Get Rid Of My Best Friend Because She Deliberately Hurt My Feelings?
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Tell her to go fly a kite! Seriously, there is no need for you to be tender with her; tell her how you feel about her treatment of you and other people and the ways in which she has changed that you don’t like.
If that little statement she made was some sort of warning, I’d call her bluff on it; she has obviously found a way to use her misfortunes to wheedle attention out of the people around her for its own sake. Her behavior after that windfall is really her; she’d be like that all the time if she had money all the time.
You’re entitled to a time out from this mean,self-centered dimwit. I say take it.
Good luck!
It sounds like she has already ended relationship with you. So just move on and sorround yourself with better people. You can’t tell her how to live and she can’t tell you how to live. I’ve had a lot of people in my lie that made me feel misplaced. Get around better people and your life will reflect it!!
Just don’t give her attention then. You don’t need shallow people like that in your life and it’s too bad she doesn’t respect the fact that you have a family. You did what you could and tried your best, and that’s all you can do.
don’t give her attention. you seem like you care about your family a lot, and you could always make new friends. she abandoned you for another best friend when she had money. don’t feel guilty about it! she brought it upon herself
On a side note, you’re asking a trick question. You’ve spent a long time with this person, and they have become a close friend. You can’t just throw them away when they go rotten without reminiscing about better days. And you are certainly going to hurt at least one of you in the process. But- and this is a very big but- there are people out there who will support you, and help you grow from this. Hopefully your friend will find the same growth because of this.
Good luck, and may you come to the right decision, whatever it may be.